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But then why all the fuss about girls putting guys in the dreaded friend zone?? So do you think guys genuinely believe in being friends first?I ask this question because I’ve been online dating for a while now and see the “let’s be friends first” line often. Or is it a manipulative tactic for women to think that he is a nice guy off the bat and wouldn’t want to rush you or pressure you into anything.The hard part is figuring out which of those three things the person you’re seeing wants as well (assuming they even want anything from you at all). We trust more with our bodies than we do with our hearts. How many of you reading this have friends that know you more intimately than your significant other ever will? How many of us have had more than our fair share of short-lived ‘romances’? Chances are many of those instances left much to be desired. Yet there is no denying the dependability, growth and fulfillment we experience with our friends.By putting your agenda to the side, you’ll eliminate the dating pressures and expectations which will result in a more genuine interaction. We are more preoccupied with being judged, and since there is an ‘unknown’ agenda on both ends, we tend to be much more guarded with our feelings making it a little more challenging to establish trust. Sh*t some of us don’t even trust our wives or husbands. Sure the dynamic is different, but a romance built similarly (in addition to the fire and desire) could be the difference between having another ‘passerby’ and the type of relationship you crave. No slut shaming here because life is about experiences; and truth be told, all of our experiences – including the one’s we feel we could have done without – serve a purpose. But philosophical bullsh*t aside, we all know damn well we wouldn’t have wasted nah a condom or two minutes of our lives with some of them ‘fresh faces’ we let into our bedrooms had we exercised a little due diligence. If this person is already exhibiting slightly concerning behavior while you are getting to know one another, can you imagine how much more turnt up it will be after ya’ll cross that bridge into lovers territory? After all, isn’t that why we date – to connect like dots and legos? It starts off with that highly anticipated telephone conversation you’ve both been eagerly awaiting since you first met. But through it all, there is no denying the thrilling allure of being in the presence of someone you have yet to experience while eagerly searching for a romantic connection with him/her.You’ll find it easier to focus more on the actual individual and not your ‘wants’ from them; making it easier to recognize early on what you have in common (or not so much), and uncover any undesirable personality and character traits. If someone were to ask you to name two people you trust and respect in life, chances are you would name either a family member and/or , you guessed it, a friend. And I aint talking about the one that Santa checks twice a year. I don’t know about you, but I like my family pet cute, cuddly, unboiled and… Anyhoot, what do I know – it aint like I got the answers anyway. So my OM family, what are your thoughts on all of this?
That said, here are 5 Benefits to Being Friends Before Lovers. We want companionship, love, sex or some combination of the three.
Those things are established because there tends to be much more openness, realness and honesty within a friendship. Does sleeping with someone open our eyes to their ‘faults’, or is it that we just stop turning a blinds eye to what we already knew all along?
I get a good amount of emails, texts, DM’s and Facebook messages from people asking me to address their specific relationship issues on this blog, and since I use to answer a lot of questions on here back in the day, I figured there is no time like the present to revisit answering relationship questions.
While there are some AMAZING dudes who will really want to form a strong, sexual pressure-less mental bond with a woman before deciding to date her, there are some dudes who will use the “becoming friends stage” as a way to keep a woman in a dating grey zone where they do EVERYTHING that a couple does (hang out, smash, spend a lot of time together, etc.) WITHOUT actually giving her the title of girlfriend – because he really doesn’t want to give her that title at all – or until he’s finished “having fun”.
These guys will beat your nani up, and the second you bring up relationship talks, he will turn around and say See, men HATE women’s friend zones because for MOST MEN it’s the END zone.Or simply, maybe this person’s personality just doesn’t mesh well with yours.Whatever the case, why does it seem that after finally sleeping with someone we discover we can’t stand them? What are we seeing after sex that we didn’t see before having it?Perhaps it’s his ascot and 3 sets of extra tight suits that rub you the wrong way.