Dating forties fifties
For most singletons, it is given that people should marry for love.
The shift in dating styles has impacted the senior generation’s dating style as well.
For most, pre-marital sexual play was considered obscene.
Individuals, including those who were unofficially engaged, continued to adhere to the conventional ethos that required the denial of any involvement.
In classic socialist China (1949–85) there was no true dating culture.
Individuals seldom sought out the opposite sex for the exclusive purpose of fun and private enjoyment.
Virginity was considered an ideal state for women and men.Today, the urban youth regard dating as an opportunity to play, to seek pleasure and to delay assuming the responsibilities of marriage. Young people use the public arena as a site in which to flaunt their exclusiveness and mutual involvement. In the 1990s, China’s single-child generation has completely embraced an orientation typically found in Western European countries: to associate with the opposite (or, in some cases, the same) sex for validation and erotic pleasure.In this milieu, virginity is no longer as important as it once was.In this milieu, two forms or styles of association or ‘dating’ emerged.
The formal style was organized around the idea of propriety in which people met with the aid of a go-between (e.g.
In general, informal dating was conducted by individuals who were constrained by other factors (e.g. Intensely romantic entanglements often characterized informal dating, whereas the more formal dating was usually devoid of romantic excitement or aspirations.