Lowered expectations dating
In other words: If you want to get bigger and encourage others to get bigger, cultivate high expectations even if it means being disappointed or sounding uncompassionate, and if you want to feel big enough already and satisfied with what others deliver, lower your expectations. So did I get it right that the key is to nibble both sides simultaneously? Hi Larissa, Great to hear from you and glad you liked the article, and I love your questions.
Are you the same Anonymous who keeps writing the same spiritual pronouncements? You give us your pre-recording as though triggered by some keyword. I'd argue you can't nibble both sides simultaneously.
Since we can have compassion for suffering people we never knew, such as when natural disasters strike, what expectations of those people were possible that would alter our reaction?
If we Americans still thought of the Japanese as barbarians and enemies today, as we did in World War Two, our low expectations of them would have made compassion for their suffering in the recent earthquake and tsunami unlikely.
My point being that happiness and compassion must not be the only virtues.
Another virtue is , for which high expectations are crucial, even if they're disappointed, or they make us less compassionate -- sadder when we don’t meet our higher expectations; less compassionate when others don't meet our expectations.
A new MRI study from University College of London indicates that the secret to happiness is low expectations. ” Even manure is a happy gift when your expectations are low enough.
Author and neuroscientist Robb Rutledge says, “Happiness depends not on how well things are going but whether things are going better or worse than expected.”This rings very true in my experience. The kid replies, “With this much manure, I'm betting there’s a pony in here! I recently lowered my expectations for what I get from a friend who used to annoy me.
Therefore I keep growing to meet my own expectations, but it doesn't drive me crazy when other persons do not meet the same standard.
We’re happier to accept other people’s difficult behaviors when we expect less from them. If happiness and compassion are your sole goals, lower your expectations. Expect no good things to come to you,from you, from circumstances or from others and you’ll be eternally delighted, grateful for any good things that happen.